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http://www.shanemyersphoto.com/mostpopular/e68e78bdd Changes. This is constant. Nothing else is as certain as this. Everything and everyone experiences changes. We all know this and yet we resist. As much as change is consistent, fear of change comes along for the ride. Very recently, I experienced how much changes can affect people on a large scale. We all believe that change is necessary when situations are not exactly ideal. However, mere talk of change can bring about hysteria in a massive scale. Just think about all the social media messages that get passed around when something changes. People start panicking and the next thing you know messages turn into gossip and all the negative 'what ifs' come out to play havoc. "What if this happens? What if that is said?" can also be used rather positively. For example "What if I try this new food and I love it?" or "What if I go out today and meet someone new who might just tu

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/288371182382627385/ Ever had one of those days where you don't feel like talking to anyone and you just want to be left alone? I have and these are the times when people feel the need to talk to you and have meetings and discussions.  You look unusually quiet and everyone wants to know what's wrong. There is nothing wrong. But just the lack of interest or energy to hold a proper conversation or to be your regular self. That does not mean you have fallen into depression. However, if this continues and is on a regular basis, please do talk to someone.  We don't have to be chirpy and positive all the time. There will be up and down days and we have to accept that we do get moody. Just because we project ourselves to be chirpy does not necessarily mean that's how we feel internally all the time. Sometimes we know the reason why, such as an arguement that happened the previous day or something that didn't go as you ex

Are we the same with everyone? The way we talk, react or respond. This is something I never really thought about until recently. And I asked myself that question. The answer is, no I am not. I admit I have mixed feelings about it. I don't know if it’s a good or bad thing but it's a fact. We are not the same with different groups of people. With our family we are different, with friends, colleagues or neighbours, we are different and same goes for strangers. We might be gentle loving souls with, or totally detached from, family. With friends a different and wild side of us emerges. Now the funny thing here is, we are also different with different groups of friends. With some, we are totally comfortable and outspoken and discuss dirty little secrets and with some others we just have fun, joke around and entertain each other. Then there is a group we keep at a distance. The friends we are not really close with but you have known them for ages.   We are constan

Are we suppressing our emotions?  We do this regularly starting consciously not wanting to hurt another person and later on it becomes an unconscious habit. We keep consoling ourselves "It's ok, they don't mean to hurt me and they are just venting." or "They are just angry and they will realise what they said was wrong." Are we convincing ourselves and giving reasons for why someone can treat us badly? Sometimes we think that we are protecting them. Are we protecting them or enabling them to continue to do what they do to us? If someone else is important, aren't you as important too? The moment someone says something hurting, our minds register it. However, we don't want to believe that they would hurt us. We don't want to believe that they are pushing us away. We don't want to believe they are self-preserving.  Shouldn't we preserve ourselves more? Shouldn't we treat ourselves better? Are we not worth it? Are

Photography by  Aris Yanuar Setianto @ https://www.pinterest.com/ You don't have to control your thoughts, you just have to stop letting them control you - Dan Millman That voice in your head. Constantly telling us what to say, do and think. Constantly running. Never stops. Most of us live in our minds. We all do talk to ourselves whether we recognise it or not. Repeating things over and over, reminding ourselves what we need to do next, sorting out details or running through various types of scenarios that may never even happen. We define that as being prepared or being worried for what may occur. We are always occupied internally unless we are drawn into something external that is more interesting than what's going on in our heads. We get distracted by this external stuff for a bit and then we immediately go right back to where we were before. We think so much that sometimes we  become unaware of our surroundings. Engrossed in whatever is runni

https://www.therandomvibez.com/positive-thinking-quotes/ This topic is all the rage now. Everyone is talking about it. Blogs, quotes on Instagram and even websites dedicated to inspire people to stay positive. There are various methods to try and different ways of becoming and staying positive.  With so much going on around us and in the world is it even possible to consider positivity? I have asked myself that question many times. When we see positive people, some of us would even wonder if they might be faking it. How is it possible to stay positive all the time? Don't situations or the way people act bug them at all? How do they stay calm and collected and keep smiling? I decided to try it out myself. For starters, I was a negative person. I always saw the worst in every situation and everyone. I thought I had to stay prepared in any situation. I used to get frustrated and angry at people and situations I could not change. What did I do? I started letting