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Becoming Positive


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This topic is all the rage now. Everyone is talking about it. Blogs, quotes on Instagram and even websites dedicated to inspire people to stay positive. There are various methods to try and different ways of becoming and staying positive. 

With so much going on around us and in the world is it even possible to consider positivity? I have asked myself that question many times. When we see positive people, some of us would even wonder if they might be faking it. How is it possible to stay positive all the time? Don't situations or the way people act bug them at all? How do they stay calm and collected and keep smiling?

I decided to try it out myself. For starters, I was a negative person. I always saw the worst in every situation and everyone. I thought I had to stay prepared in any situation. I used to get frustrated and angry at people and situations I could not change.

What did I do? I started letting go.

A good friend said to me once "Not your monkeys, not your circus". I started applying that to every situation, problem and person that bugged me. It was hard. Very hard in the beginning. My mind kept going back to a whole lot of  "what ifs". But each time, I take a deep breath and told myself to keep moving forward and reminded myself to let it go.

Today, I would consider myself a positive person. I smile all the time. Situations or problems don't bug me as much as it used. Take note that I didn't say that they don't bug me at all but not as much as before. Letting go comes easier and faster. Now it bugs people to see me positive and smiling. 

Does this mean that I don't try to solve any problems at all? Of course I do. The difference is, I no longer worry about "what ifs". I feel so much lighter and I no longer carry burdens.

I met someone a few days ago. He is 72 but doesn't look older than 60. He has been going for kidney dialysis for 20 years. He exercises, tries to eat healthy and inspires people. He said to me, "If I think about the problems in my life, I am never going to live the rest of my life." Such an inspiration.

Below is a link I found really helpful. It's simple to follow and adapt into your daily life. Remember any new thing will be difficult in the beginning but keep trying and it will become a habit. One day, you will be smiling at the world positively.


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